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2010 庚 寅 – Tiger, Tiger, Burning Bright…

January 28, 2010 · 2 Comments

Tiger, Tiger Burning Bright,

In the forests of the night

What immortal hand or eye

Dare frame thy fearful symmetry

- William Blake

So, to recap on where I left off on Part One…2010 is a year with the theme of Againstness.

How do we translate Againstness into something practical that laypeople can comprehend? (although newsflash – apparently Againstness is actually a word.). Just straight off the top of my head, here are some of the words/associations I would put with this term:

Versus. Antagonism. Anti. Disagreement. Conflict.Dog-Eat-Dog. Everyman for himself. For me to live, you must die. There can only be one.

However, methinks that to actually be more precise, one must actually look at the nature of the Againstness we are dealing with here. Theoretically, two sets of Elements in the Five Element table can exemplify Againstness – Wood vs Metal (as per 2010) or Fire vs Water. And in each scenario there’s a clear difference in the nature of the Againstness.

In 2010, we have Wood vs Metal. So from here, we can further extrapolate the following:

  • Wood is benevolence. Metal is justice. What is right, isn’t always fair. And vice versa. Theme for the year.
  • The bleeding hearts vs the ones who think of the greater good. Wood is about giving way. About kindness. Metal is about clarity. And righteousness. Is it better to give the beggar in the street a dollar? Or haul him out from the gutter and force him to earn his living?
  • Wood is progress. Metal is decisiveness. One wishes to move forward. The other is about finality.  In issues of the day (global warming, bonus regulation, banking regulation), this will be the dilemma. Do we strive to get the system that is right and moves us forward, or do we just get something that works, and start moving on?
  • Wood = Liberals. Metal = Conservatives. They never like each other, but can’t live without the other. But who will triumph? (cf. UK election this year) I say no one. Both sides will end up bruised in the battle

Now let’s look back at the chart:

Tiger goes Metalica

The most needed element in this chart is WATER. Obviously, there isn’t a drop of it.

Water represents wisdom and intelligence. Which means that whatever the world faces, whatever the governments of the day face, whatever the average person is facing – the answer is to THINK ABOUT IT.

Unfortunately, wisdom and cooler heads WILL NOT prevail, at least until the summer months. Even then, it may well be a warped type of wisdom because although the Horse Month (壬 午)contains Water, the YEAR itself does not. It is questionable if this wisdom will even have any real impact, or turn out to be wisdom of benefit, especially as Ren Wu itself is usually seen as very stable pillar. Significantly, the other month when Water appears prominently is Goat Month (癸 未) – by conventional BaZi outlook, Gui Wei is considered a pillar that signals contamination, thoughts that are muddied, and murky. Unclear.

I do think however that we might get a touch of hysteria though. Since Water is needed, people will tend to be more emotional in the manner in which they react, as a means in which to compensate for the absence of the element. This is an effect that sometimes occurs in charts where there is an element missing. The person resorts to the element frequently because they need it/want to use it. Unfortunately, it usually turns out that the use of the element is either ineffective OR worse, badly used.

There is using emotion as an outlet. And there is using emotion for manipulation. And my personal sentiment is that the hysteria/emotional responses that we will see to the events of the year will err on the side of unreasonable emotion rather than sentimental emotion. Simply because the entire year’s tone/theme is in many respects, irrational in it’s nature.

I’m also taking that stance because of the last two pillars in the year. Yi You and Ji Mao. I call these last two pillars the Hara Kiri pillars. I mean it does sort of invoke the image of gutting oneself (or someone else right?).

Yi You is the universal bazi symbol of betrayal. And in the stems, you can see the You, is also busy taking a stab at the Mao that is next to it. Yet more ‘cutting’. Yet more betrayal. Yet more Hara Kiri.

If we follow the natural progression of the pillars, we can see the first two pillars (spanning the first 2 quarters of the year up until Goat month) represent one type of Againstness, and the last two pillars reflect a different (and more insidious) type of Againstness. Againstness that results in Betrayal. Or a sense of being or having been Betrayed.

So the first half of the year will be laden with disagreements, but in a sense positive disagreements. Because Wood is trying to win over Earth (stability/status quo) and also trying to work things out with Metal (Justice/Righteousness/Decisiveness/The Now). This is if you like, positive disagreement. It’s natural disagreement. It’s two people going against each other but only because they have to, and not out of any selfish motivation. Each is doing what they must. As the chinese say, the soldier must chase the thief.

But then we move towards the 2nd half of the year governed by Yi You and Ji Mao and we see a different picture emerging. Yes, it still is Metal against Wood. But it is the Wood that cannot afford to be wrong, against the Metal that must always be right. It is two of the most self-interested, survivalist, scheming and cunning Stems, going up against each other. The tone and mood will shift – now it is no longer natural disagreement. It is posturing. It is death by a thousand cuts.

Alternative Methodology

In the above method, it’s heavy on extrapolation and philosophy. It’s also using the individual pillars to read how the year’s influences will change as we progress through each Quarter, whilst overlaying the year’s theme into the equation.

Another way to look at things is to look simply at the chart, and read it as if it were a person.

Back to basics. This is a Yi Wood Day Master, born in season. Self is strong. As such, needs Officer, Output and Wealth. The chart has a missing element, which is that of Water. It’s some matter of argument whether or not Water is the Useful God. On the one hand, the chart is cold (Winter has just concluded) and so Fire, particularly Bing Fire is needed. On the other hand, Wood needs Water, as one of the fundamental elements for it’s survival. But Water makes the chart colder.

In a call like this, I’d go with Fire because Water is not present. Moot point. Unfortunately, the Bing Fire here is in Growth, but also Hidden. And at the Mao Hour, it’s not very bright. Coupled with the absence of the Resource element, we have a problem also of the Useful God here being potentially not THAT useful.

So, conclusion: this *person* (cause it’s really a year) has empathy issues, isn’t really a thinker, and is full of empty ideas (Resource must support the Eating God/Hurting Officer). This person also has a real issue when it comes to Noble People – they are flying without any parachute. There will be no Knight in Shining Armour to come to this person’s rescue when they screw up. There will be no one cheering them on to get to the finish line. There will not be anyone offering up good ideas at the right time, to help them out of their quagmire. (hmmm, any of this striking a chord?)

Equally, their own ideas will be crap. there will be a lot of bullshit talk (empty eggs, vessels that make too much noise) because the quality of this Hurting Officer Star is questionable, given that it lacks the Resource Star that is technically needed to make it a quality Star.

I therefore from this theorise that this will officially be the year of STUPID GOVERNMENT LEADERS and INANE LEADERSHIP. Like that phrase in MacBeth, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

The inane leadership conclusion also can be derived from the quality of the Direct Officer Star here. This is a poor quality Officer Star because it obviously lacks the requisite Ding Fire to forge it. But more importantly, this Direct Officer is not rooted, and what is hidden underneath the Day Master is the 7 Killings Star. This means the *person* is by and large disingenuous. There is a hidden agenda in all that is being done. It appears that the person is doing what is right and honourable, when in fact, they are pursuing some mad world domination plan at the end, that involves making use of other people (who will be made to think they are going along with something that is all good and right when it is not).

How I see it is this: the actions of the world in 2010 (leaders, governments, politicians, CEOs, bankers! anyone really) will be punctuated by an agenda arising from deep seated insecurity (RW) and paranoid fear (7K), along with a measure of greed or at least, self interest, but all that will be disguised by an apparent image of trust, and worthiness.

In this chart, technically the Rob Wealth star is a negative Star and so is not useful/needed. Yet, Yi of all the Day Masters, uses Rob Wealth best. But when a strong Yi Wood uses the Rob Wealth Star, this indicates that the partnerships/collaborations will be unlikely to yield a good outcome since neither party actually  needs the other.

Conclusion: soured partnerships. Everyone looking for a win-win when simply put, there is no win-win. Collaborations will look good, but will ultimately prove to be only furthering the agenda of the more wily party at hand.

The third most interesting feature of this chart is the fact that the Day Master has wealth stars on the left and right. Ji in the Hour, and Wu in the Month. This automatically also indicates that this *person* has greed issues. Traditional BaZi terms this a ‘right cuddle, left embrace‘ scenario. It usually indicates the person is lecherous or is a womaniser but also translates into a person who is greedy because they see possibilities and opportunities everywhere, and TRY to put a burger that is too big, into their mouth which is not small, but just that…

THE BURGER IS TOO DAMN BIG.

Eat THIS

By the same vein, it can also be concluded that governments will be torn between stable organic and reasonable growth (Direct Wealth) and trying to bring back the feel-good effect too fast potentially through encouraging speculation (the Indirect Wealth). As this Yi Wood controls the Indirect Wealth better, it will favour speculation. But the Jia Wood (rob Wealth Star) favours Direct Wealth.

Conclusion: dog attempts to eat dog, and ends up getting indigestion. People will think that they best way forward is to think about saving themselves, and only thinking about themselves and that will backfire spectacularly on them.Given that we live in a world where monetary policy is a global matter, and the activities of one market will always have an effect on another, you will see some countries actually potentially encouraging speculation and bubbles whilst others try to hold things back. Again, AGAINSTNESS.

I may edit this as I go along with more time to think about my ideas. But next post:  who is most affected in 2010.

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The truth about marriage, 14-12-2010 and 10-10-10

January 19, 2010 · Leave a Comment

Seriously, this nonsense about not being able to get married in the year of the Tiger is getting to be really absurd.

This is the article from Malaysia’s ‘The Star’ newspaper (famous of course for carrying garbage news but that’s…something else) entitled “Tiger scares couples off marriage“. Some excerpts of relevance:

JOHOR BARU: Unlike previous Valentine’s Days when couples would get themselves hitched in mass weddings, many Chinese are avoiding marriage this coming Year of the Tiger.

Most Chinese couples believe that Valentine’s Day, which coincides with the first day of the lunar new year on Feb 14, will not be a good date for marriage as it represents anger, argument and conflict. Johor Baru Tiong Hua Association manager Eric Ku said it would usually have 30 couples registered to be married in a mass wedding three weeks before Valentine’s Day on other years but time, it only had 12 couples.

Further on in the article:

Ku said most Chinese believed that marrying on Feb 14 this year would doom the union due to the Tiger taking over from the Ox in the zodiac.

“Some also believe that it is not good Feng Shui to be married on that day,” he said, adding that the association would instead organise a mass wedding on Oct 10 this year to take advantage of the auspicious date of 10-10-10.

“According to the lunar calendar, other months besides February are good for marriage.

“We expect at least 50 couples to be involved in the October ceremony,” he said.

Let me first state that it’s appalling how newspapers make it a point to fact check something before they print but this rule goes out the window the minute it comes to metaphysics. It is automatically assumed that because there are no people signing up to get married on that day, it must be

a) automatically a bad day

b) something to do with the year, which is why no one is getting married on that day.

Has it occurred to ANYONE that since this is the first day of Chinese New Year, that most people probably can’t persuade their family members to put off the New Year duties and attend a wedding?

Similarly, given that it is Valentine’s Day, that maybe hundreds of thousands of people who DON’T celebrate Chinese New Year or who don’t know anything about Chinese Astrology, will probably get married on that day? Are their marriages singularly doomed now?

Let’s get with the facts.

The 14th of February 2010 is NOT an unfavourable or bad day. It is not a Superior Day according to the Dong Gong system which means it’s not a GREAT DAY so it’s not a date that I would personally recommend.

But not great does not mean, bad. People need to recognise the difference!

The 14th of February is an Initiate Day, which is regarded as ‘okay’ for marriage. The only people who actually cannot use this day are those born in the year of the Ox, or who have the Ox Earthly Branch in their Spouse Palace.

[Updated/edited] Having a bit of spare time on my hands, I decided to look further into this business of 14-2-10.

February 14 2010 is a Yi Wei 乙 未 Day. In the Dong Gong system, it is an Initiate Day and  is regarded as an acceptable type of day to use for marriage based on the 12 Officers system of Date Selection. Joey Yap’s ‘Dong Gong Date Selection’ book says this about 未 (wei ) days in the month of 寅 (Yin):

The negative Heavenly Thief, Red Phoenix and Grappling Hook stares arrive on this day. The animals or pets in teh household will be adversely affected if any important activity or endeavour is undertaken on this day and human occupants will also be susceptible or prone to ailments. The worse of the Wei 未 Days is the YI Wei Day, when the Sha Qi enters the Central Palace of a home or office. As such, avoid moving house, getting married, or starting a business on these days.

So on paper, Feb 14th is an acceptable and usable day because it is an Initiate Day. However, the Dong Gong system clearly indicates it is an extremely negative day despite being a good 12 Officers Day. The point here however is that it is not a bad day because it is the 1st Day of the Lunar New Year, nor is it a bad day because it ” represents anger, argument and conflict”. It is a bad day because the energies on that day are ill-suited for any important activities.

Now, what about 10-10-10.  Guess what?

IT’S A LOUSY DAY TO GET MARRIED TOO!

10-10-10 is a 癸 巳 (Gui Si) Day.

According to the Dong Gong system, it is a 危 (Danger – Cantonese: Ngai) Day.  Joey Yap’s ‘Dong Gong Date Selection’ book says this about 巳 (si) days in the month of 戌  (Dog):

A Yi Si 乙 巳  Day is particularly ideal to undertake landscaping, construction and renovation works or for marriage, burial, moving house, opening a business or travel. The day’s useful energies augur well for descendant luck, as well as strengthening one’s wealth luck. The Qi on other Si 巳Days are only secondary, at best, although they can still be used for endeavours of a smaller scale. Do not use the remaining Si 巳Days for marriage, moving house, opening a business or travel – the outcomes will be hazardous.

Admittedly, the table below does not identify the Gui Si day as inauspicious, but indicates it is a Fair Day (meaning, not good, but not super-bad either). But, by convention, Initiate, Success and Open Days are the best days to use for marriage. Any other type of day generally would not be considered ideal or suitable.

I don’t care that the Tong Shu says it’s an acceptable day for marriage. It’s a Danger Day in the Dong Gong system and and in my books, why on earth would anyone want to get married on that day? (btw, Danger here doesn’t actually mean it’s Dangerous, it’s simply the way the word is translated. Danger Days are usable but generally at not used for important personal events). As a Date Selection consultant, I simply wouldn’t take the change. Between an Initiate Day and a Danger Day, I would pick the Initiate Day any time (assuming there are no Clashes to the Year Pillar of the two parties).

But the real lesson here is instead of using these wonderfully symbolic but actually rather ineffectual and very very average dates, I would just go with a REAL GOOD DAY.Something that is substantiated by Dong Gong as a Superior Day, with great stars that are supportive of the pursuit of marriage AND most importantly, is good for both parties.

There aren’t many of those in the first quarter of the year, but there are some really good ones in 2010.

If it’s supposed to be a special day, why the hell would anyone want to use a date that everyone else is hankering after?

Finally, will someone please inform these well-intentioned but completely ignorant individuals running these associations that the Ox leaves and the Tiger arrives on February 4th. By February 14th, the Tiger has well and truly arrived by that point – no one is taking over from anyone on that date.

Making up this stuff is one thing, but making it up without any substance? Given that the Tiger and Ox actually are considered a ‘hidden combination’ in the study of BaZi, I’m surprised no one has come up with some great big exaggerated whopper about that.

And for the love of Tigger, there is no ‘Feng Shui’ issue when it comes to marriage. Feng Shui is about where you live, Astrology is what relates to what you do, or don’t do. Get with the program people.

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2010 庚 寅 - Looking into the Eye of the Tiger

January 12, 2010 · 4 Comments

Last year, I did an analysis of the Earth Ox 己 丑 year from a thematic approach. I had intended to write an economic analysis as well but chickened out of it because I had a crisis of confidence in terms of whether or not the approach was right. Having had the opportunity to test my hypothesis as to how to evaluate the year with some measure of semi-precision from the ‘birthday’ of the Year (for those who haven’t worked it out, the Metal Tiger is born on the 4th of February 2010 @ 6.49am), this year, I intend to publish my economic analysis. Really!

Anyway, to kick things off, I thought I’d talk about things from a thematic approach first, per how it was done in 2009. But first, you’re probably wondering – what on earth is a thematic approach?

I freely admit, I made that term up (or if I happen to have a swell-headed Avatar, then well, I invented the whole thing lock stock and barrel – you read it here first people!)

The concept behind a thematic approach is to study the Year Pillar AND the chart, and identify themes or big ideas that run through it. As Wikipedia defines it, a theme is

“The idea about life revealed in a work of literature. The message may be about life, society, or human nature. Themes often explore timeless and universal ideas and may be implied rather than stated explicitly.”

Merriam-Webster defines theme as:

“specific and distinctive quality, characteristic, or concern”

It is in a sense, attempting to derive some kind of pattern or trend from the picture the chart and the year pillar yields. Now, this is not pure pictoral approach. Pictoral approach means you derive the imagery of the year/chart. Thematic approach goes one step further and extrapolates themes. But in any case, the picture is the first step towards deriving the theme.

Let’s start with the facts. Here is the chart of the year.

Tiger goes Metalica

Now, interestingly here, we have a visual image for the chart, that is very in-sync with the visual image of the Year Pillar, which is 庚 寅 Geng Yin.

Notice how it’s all Wood against Metal in EVERY SINGLE PILLAR?

By contrast, in the year of Ji Chou 己 丑 (chart below), the year’s imagery was not hugely in-sync with the visual image of the Year Pillar.

Solid Metal Ox

Notice how in Ji Chou, the Pillars DO NOT have a consistent similar theme? Which in a sense, suggests a roller-coaster situation that is highly unpredictable and which fluctuates as the year proceeds. There is however a common theme/idea here and that is the preponderance of Water, indicating it is  in essence a very cold year. Might explain the record snowfall that Europe has recently experienced as well.

Anyway, let’s talk about the Year Pillar FIRST, before moving to the Chart. If we were to see the pillar of Geng Yin in pictoral form, it would be this:

The Axe (Geng) chops the Wood (Jia). So from this image, we now attempt to derive an over-riding theme/idea for the Year. And that idea is simple: it is the concept of againstness.

Ya I made up that word too but in essence, the year’s theme is about clash. Antagonism. Disagreement. Going against each other. Inability to agree. Conflict.Drastic measures and action.

Now, how did this idea come about? Both the Axe and the Wood, do not want to strike each other. But yet, they are mortal enemies as it were. One was made to chop the other, and one was made to be chopped.  In that sense, although they may wish to be friends, that can never be.

In BaZi, there are 60 Jia Zi, but no one ever said the 60 Jia Zi were all greated EQUAL. Geng Yin is considered a somewhat unfavourable Jia Zi because it is neither a UNITY Jia Zi, nor is it a HARMONIOUS Jia Zi.

A unity pillar is one where top and below confirm each other. Ie: Ji Chou 己 丑.

A Harmonious Production pillar is where the Heavenly Stem, produces or supports the Eartly Branch. Ie: 癸 卯

Or where the Stem and Branch have an affinity ie: Ding Hai 丁 亥

庚 寅 is regarded as a pillar where the Stem attacks the Branch. It is cutting off your legs. It is self-mutilation. Obviously, it is destructive in a sense.

It’s not of course, all bad news. Arguably.

There is an old saying when we look at the Geng Yin and Jia Shen pillars, and that is Geng Metal chops Jia Wood produces Ding Fire. When the axe strikes the tree, sparks are produced. Fire is by and large generally considered a positive element, being one of the two most needed elements in any chart (the other being water). Ding Fire is associated with enlightenment, and the ability to see through the darkness.

This suggests that although yes, there will be conflict, antagonism, self-mutilation, acts that one does that seem to go against one’s self interest (one here referring to nations or governments – let’s think big people) – there is a possibility that at the end of it all, we might just have learned some important lessons.

However, I believe that to actually support the hypothesis that there is hope after all, the whole chart must be considered, and not just the Year Pillar. As much as the year pillar does dictate the year, ultimately, one must look at the entire chart to gain a more accurate snapshot of what the year has to offer.

That is in Part Deux.

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Spring ain’t going anywhere…

January 10, 2010 · 2 Comments

In the field of astrology and Metaphysics, misinformed or misleading article are pretty much par for the course, and as common as the cold.  However, in this day and age where everything is available at the click of a mouse on the Internet, me thinks the proportion of quacks in the metaphysics industry is no more than in any other industry. Still, it does irritate me just a little whenever I read something like that:

“The Year of the Tiger symbolises vibrancy, according to Lai. But some Chinese do not think it is a good year as the first day will fall after the start of Spring on Feb 4, which is known as lichun in the Chinese calendar. To them, the Year of the Tiger will be without lichun, which marks the start of spring when farmers plant the seeds.

With that in mind, many Chinese couples are rushing to have their wedding receptions before the Year of the Tiger starts.

But according to Angus Kong, a feng shui and I-Ching scholar, “People planning their wedding date should just look at their time and date of birth and they should be able to find a good day to get married even in the Year of the Tiger.’’

Source: The Star 10 Jan 2010 Yum Cha Column (I’m not saying the columnist is wrong – she is simply expressing what is actually a commonly held view, which is what I object to)

If i had a dime for every time someone said the year has no Spring…

Fact: The Chinese have TWO Calendars.

99 percent of the people who are ethnically Chinese don’t know this. Even Chinese-educated people probably don’t know this unless they’ve dabbled in Metaphysics. Even then, there is a chance they aren’t aware that there are TWO calendars.

The Lunar Calendar is what enables us to do amazing mathematical computations without computers to predict every eclipse for the next umpteen years. It also determines the dates of all major celebrations in Chinese culture – dumpling festival, mooncake festival, and Chinese New Year.

This calendar shifts around and has double months, and missing months and all those other kind of exotic months.

In their great infinite wisdom, ancient Chinese (hey, they were a great civilisation once upon a time, and you think they didn’t FIGURE THIS ONE OUT?) also recognised they needed a calendar that didn’t keep recalibrating itself every year. Otherwise, how on earth would they know when to instruct farmers to harvest crops and plant seeds?

So the Chinese also had a Gregorian-esque calendar called the Solar Calendar or Farmer’s Calendar. In this calendar, each month is named after a very specific type of farming activity ie: Coming of Spring or Awakening of Worms, or Grain Rain or Small Sprout – you get the point.

In this calendar, the new year (not the Lunar Chinese New Year) starts on the SAME DAY each year. February 4th.

And each month starts more or less around the same time each year, give or take a few days.

And there are no missing, double, or hidden months.

And there is ALWAYS a spring or Li Chun 立 春.

WITHOUT FAIL. Come hell, heaven or high water, there is a Spring every year.

The Lunar Calendar is of course sometimes used in Metaphysical calculations – primarily the Purple Star Astrology method (Zi Wei Dou Shu) uses this calendar. But most of the time, the Solar Calendar  is the Chinese Metaphysicians BFF.

The Tong Shu btw, contains BOTH calendars in one. How nice is that? You do however need some kind of PH.D brain to be able to figure out how it works.

So, the reason indicated above for NOT getting married in the year of the Tiger is actually plain misinformation at it’s best. Please ignore the old nags who keep perpetuating this myth.

There are of course individuals who are ill suited to get married in the year of the Tiger, and these are people born in the year of the Monkey.

Date Selection principles dictate that one should never Clash the Year when it comes to selecting a date for important activities. As such, individuals born in the Year of the Monkey, who are at odds with the Tai Sui (Grand Duke) of the year, which is the Tiger, are advised NOT to get married in the year of the Tiger.Individuals who have the Monkey Branch in their Spouse Palace are also usually not advised to get married this year.

Some things really…SHOULD wait y’know. This is one of them.

But for everyone else out there who doesn’t fall into this grouping, feel free to get hitched (although please, consider getting a good date anyway. Here is my blog on that topic).

And since I’m dispelling myths here, one last point.

There is no need to go and add an extra year to your year of birth to ‘con’ the Tai Sui into thinking you’re not a Monkey if you are born in the year of the Monkey, or if you are born in the year of the Tiger, that you are not Tigger.

For those born in the year of the Monkey, yes, there are some concerns obviously as you are experiencing a Clash. But the universe is not so easily fooled – just because you pretended at a ceremony to be something you are not, does not mean, well, it works.

This is not going to fix anything. Action is better than wishful thinking any day in the world of BaZi folks.

For those who are born in the year of the Tiger, this is NOT a case of going against the Tai Sui (Grand Duke) or offending the Grand Duke. Only FOUR ANIMALS can truly offend the Grand Duke and they are the Rooster, Dragon, Pig and Horse. These four animals correspond with the Self Punishment interaction in BaZi, hence are considered actually offending the Grand Duke during the year when the Grand Duke is any of these four animals.

In any other year, it is not considered an actual offending of the Grand Duke.


Everyone else has a Get out of Jail Card okay?

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The Boxes and Strings theory

January 7, 2010 · 2 Comments

So, having left at least my M2 students in recent puzzlement with my ‘Life is like…’ post, I’m finally getting around to answering this one.Blame the Ox for the long hiatus between posts.

A friend once remarked that men treat life like a series of boxes.

Box #1 – Job. Box #2 – Money. Box #3 – Relationships. And so on and so forth. This relates to the ability of men to compartmentalise their life. So having a bad day with the wife is one problem which when they go off to the pub with their male friends, doesn’t come into the picture because the box that wife goes into, is not the same box that ‘drinks with the boys’ goes into.

Women on the other hand, according to this friend, see life as a ball of string. Everything is inter-connected – job, boss, boyfriend, daddy issues, money, love…we women are more ‘cosmic’ in that sense. We think everything is somehow related to something else.So when we have a bad day at the office, we take it out on the husband or boyfriend, and having drinks with the girls is invariably not just about talking about one’s relationship life (or lack thereof) but also one’s job.

Hence, men have difficulty following conversations that run into each other whilst women are used to juggling several topics in a single conversation.

So what does this have to do with BaZi? And how is it that Life is like four boxes and a string?

BaZi kind of blows the whole compartmentalised vs strung together theory about the genders. Life is about strings and boxes for EVERYONE – it’s just some of us are better at the box part, and some of us are better at the string part, and some people recognise that well, it’s both.

I arrived at this conclusion in the course of a year of concerted effort on one of my “projects” – a term I use for friends who I endeavour to assist using my BaZi knowledge. “Projects” is a polite term. They’re more like guinea pigs. Or case studies. Anyway, these are friends who have an identifiable set of goals and for whom I endeavour to explain BaZi to, so that they can achieve these goals.

Now, it is VERY HARD to change a person. Especially when you are using BaZi and you do not have total control over what they do. They might not use the dates you ask them. Or they’ll for some reason, decide to go counter to given advice. So, the trick often is to show them success using BaZi in a facet of their life that either is not of great significance (a small, but graduated start) or, to chose something that is very important, and coach them through that event.

The “hard” way by any other name.

I find it’s easier to work on a facet that is important to them (like career) but not something they’re totally worked up about. Then show them behavioral changes they can make, or action they can take. When they make the leap in that area, and see results, they then become a little more convinced. And you broaden the circle that way.

It’s of course, totally conniving. (rats, given the game away). But they don’t know it so…

The trick here is to get them to make use of the element that they need or have to utilise, but in a context wherein they will be comfortable making the change. For example, if I want a person to make more use of their Seven Killings Star, I’ll start by asking them to make a change in a leisure part of their life. So for example, participate in a contact sport, or something that requires aggression (ie: kickboxing, or maybe a racquet sport). By gradually making the person become accustomed to using that star and thus, the attributes that perhaps they never thought they had, they will become more comfortable with broadening its use in other facets of their life.

This approach also works because there are only 10 Gods, and they represent EVERYTHING in the world that we know off, and don’t know off (anyone figure out the 10 God yet for Avatar? ).  As such, getting them to utilise the element or 10 Gods in any facet of their life, is automatically progress, even if it doesn’t directly relate to the most important aspect of their life they are trying to fix.

Ultimately, the goal in Bazi is to get a person to USE the elements that are favourable or help to bring out the best in their Day Master and chart. If they’re already using it, then you want them to use it MORE. If they aren’t, then you want them to get using it.

The four boxes and the string theory operates on the idea that as long as you get them started on using a particular element or 10 God, you’re automatically going to effect progress in all areas of the person’s life, even if the initial use is restricted.

Because string represents your Character. The choices you make, the person you are, the action you take.

And are you not the SAME PERSON in all facets of your life, with the same CHARACTER? That is the consistent element that runs through all the boxes in life. So, if you are able to implement a change to your personality, character, action and choices in ONE FACET of your life, you can do so for the other facets of your life and improve them accordingly.

YOU. YOUR CHARACTER. That is the string that runs through all those boxes.

And with only 10 Gods, there is invariably an overlap between the boxes of your life, like it or not.

Why are people surprised that when a man gets rich, he trades his old wife for a new one? They assume that they ‘old wife’ was the true wife. When in reality, it may have just been the person went through a superficial Wealth Luck Pillar, and got married at the wrong time. And that his true Marriage Luck was actually later in life. (of course, there is another reason for why men trade up as well, which is that they’re just well, not individuals of character but that’s another post).

Similarly, when a woman is having problems with her boss, is it any surprise that the relationship is also imperilled? If you hate your boss, well, you probably hate your husband too. (sometimes, it’s the case if they hate the boss, they don’t hate the boyfriend, but that’s because the Day Master could be unfavourable with the Direct Officer Star, but somehow likes the 7 Killings Star).

Everything may be in boxes, but there’s a string going through it all.

Case in point – let’s say you’re trying to work with someone who has self-confidence issues, and these self-confidence issues permeate through all the facets of their life. Now, between their relationship box, and their career box, it’s a lot easier to get a person to make changes in their career box simply because the relationship box is quite hard to effect change within, since emotions are often at play.

The hope is that once you get them used to using that element in one box (ie: standing up to their boss, or maybe making a serious change to the way they look at their job or handle themselves on the job), it is easy to ‘transfer’ the skills to another box. But if they crash and burn on the first go in a difficult box, you have a harder sell convincing them to make the change more wholesale in their life.

For example, if I wanted to embolden a person by getting them to use their Seven Killings Star, which also happens to be a star that is Favourable for them to use.  I would get them to stand up to their boss. That’s very empowering, and very emboldening. Or say ‘fuck off’ to someone who was horrible to them.  Or devote a day to the Art of Mean.

And once these people see they have this kind of power or ability, they will keep using it, and using it. And in turn, they are making their Day Master better and better, because they are using an element or Star that ultimately improves the quality of their Day Master.

Every star has the potential to be favourable and unfavourable in the qualities that it exerts. A person who is very timid, also has the potential to be ferocious and do or die because the same star controls both these tendencies. A rabbit after all, will use it’s claws if cornered. It also explains why kids who are mercilessly teased and made fun off in school, are the ones who sometimes end up blowing their classmates away in a gun rampage. Seven Killings represents not just aggression and fearlessness, but also petty people, such as people who tease and mock you.

So start the change in one box. And see how it rides the string of life, into the rest of your life.

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Life is like…

December 2, 2009 · 2 Comments

…four boxes with a string through it.

Four Boxes and a String

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Carla and Michelle, BFF?

September 26, 2009 · 2 Comments

Carla and Michelle, BFF? In the time since Obama has been in office, the French and American first ladies have attended multiple events together. And, though the fashion world has tried to paint them as rivals, they are actually quite fond of each other, as this picture attests. (Shine)

One is a Yi, the other is a Xin. Is it possible for them to be BFFs?

Carla Sarkozy is a 辛 酉 and Michelle Obama is a 乙 丑. So on the surface, it looks like frenemies rather than BFF.

But, because the 酉 and 丑 are part of a group of combinations (巳 酉 丑), this suggests an affinity between the two women. But because this is a affinity that involves the Earthly Branches, the affinity is not immediately apparent to everyone. Instead, what everyone sees and perceives is the Xin and Yi competing to one up each other.

Both women are married to 己 Earth husbands.

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Options…give me options!

September 12, 2009 · 1 Comment

Clients ask for this all the time.

They want options. Choices.

A or B? Not good enough. They want A, B, C, D, the kitchen sink, half the farm and the moon on a silver platter as well please.

BaZi always gets oversold, irregardless of whether or not the person who sells you the consult actually oversells. Hence I often place a great deal of emphasis on managing client expectations. Because the truth is that whilst BaZi can be extremely helpful, and offer very clear and precise solutions and answers to problems, it is also inherently limited by one very important element in the equation.

REALITY.

Reality is your educational background.

Reality is your age.

Reality is your personality and character, which grows more and more set in place as you get older.

Reality is your mortgage. Your debts. Your credit card bills. Your kids who need their education paid for.

Reality is doing a business that you don’t understand or know anything about is a very sure-fire way of failure.

Reality is doing a business that you don’t love, or have a great passion for, or a particular interest in, is also a recipe for potential disaster or failure.

Reality is doing business when that’s not what you’re suited to doing is asking for disaster.

Reality is the country you live in, the socio-political-economic circumstances of that country, its warts and all.

So what exactly is it that I’m getting at? Well basically that the BaZi consultant can offer you a multitude of options and solutions, but those solutions and options may not be choices that you can actually make, or action you can actually take.

Equally, they may not be choices, solutions and options that you are WILLING to take on or make. (read, you don’t want it enough).

Sometimes this is due to the limitation of the person. For example, if you are 52 years old, have spent 25 years in the same industry, and now want options as to what you can do having quit your job or perhaps been let go or perhaps having sold your existing business. Also you need it to be that this job pays you the same as what you were earning, you do need to recognise that

a) as much as people say age is all in the mind, let’s face it – you don’t have the same energy you have at 52 that you did at 25. It’s not to say you can’t use mind over matter to achieve that energy. But most people are simply not prepared to start over at 52. They haven’t the will-power, the drive and the desire.

b) your skills could be out of date. Or limited. If all your life was spent in the manufacturing industry, but your ideal industry of choice if Fire, do you have the skills to take on a job in that industry? Many people love the idea of owning a restaurant (Fire element industry) but talk to anyone in the F&B business and they’ll tell you that unless you’re opening a chicken rice shop, a restaurant is potentially the fastest way to lose your pants and nest egg, after owning an airline of course. And there is the small problem of actually being able to cook.

Invariably, the problem of clients feeling like no options were given to them is often because the options and possibilities (as derived from their chart + taking into account the reality of the situation) simply isn’t in line or in tandem with the OPTIONS THEY WANT TO HEAR.

In short, they got given options and choices. Just not the ones they wanted. Not the ones that represent their long held dreams. Not the ones that tell them they are going to be rich. Not the ones that make them feel good.

It is an irresponsible and indeed, I’ll go so far as to say, rotten, consultant who ignores reality and practicalities when it comes to providing advice and options. There is a difference between what the chart says you can do, and what you can do, after you’ve taken into account reality and contextual situations.

Now, this is often misconstrued as ME being ageist, sexist, whatever-ist. But the truth is, it’s not ME who is ageist, sexist, racist etc. It’s the world that is that way.And a responsible consultant must acknowledge these realities, but also press them home to a client.

But the decision at the end of the day is that of the clients. If you think you can overcome the obstacles that reality throws at you, then go with that. But before you decide ‘YES I CAN’,  ask yourself if you have implemented a reality check. Because saying YES I CAN, without knowing what you are up against, is a recipe for disaster, personal disappointment and frustration.

As a consultant, here’s how I work when it comes to giving clients options and solutions.

First, I ask the client what are the options they have in mind. Most clients fail to be sufficiently pro-active in their consultations, by coming with a list of options. They waltz into the consultation EXPECTING to be given options (and mind you, options that they LIKE and WANT TO HEAR). Is it any surprise they don’t get what they like and want to hear when most of the time, they don’t know what they even want?

Next, I will evaluate the options that the client has indicated (if given such options) against the chart. If it is a 50-50 situation (meaning the option is a possibility or do-able), then the Luck Pillar will usually become an important consideration. Is this the right time for them to do what they want to do?

If however the option isn’t available, I will state the obvious. No, sorry this option is not available for you. (read: Dream crusher moment).

If the client is insistent, I will explain WHY. And then tell them that if they insist on going down that path, they will have to take into consideration the various problems and obstacles I have indicated, and also fix their character constraints to minimise the problems they will face. Typically, this is a daunting exercise. And it is designed to be so deliberately by the consultant because it’s always better to be safe than sorry. I would rather the client be constantly on guard, than on cruise control. Screw-ups in life happen (just like car accidents) when people take their eyes off the road. It’s not my job to save you from yourself, but at the very least if you plan to get into a shipwreck, for god’s sakes, at least know how to swim.

So what if the client comes in with zero options in mind? This is the dreaded “you tell me what I can do” client. The one who wants to know all the possibilities, nevermind the reality. And usually the one who has NO IDEA about reality in the first place. (from experience, Resource types). The anything is possible, nothing is impossible, gimme-hope types.

People who should never see a bazi consultant with square hands, short fingers, square face and small eyes.

The client with zero options is almost always given the 20 questions routine from me. I try to find out what their background is, education level, what possible options are available given their skills and knowledge, and try to gauge what their area of interest or passion might be. If I’m lucky, I’ll get to this information within 10-15 minutes of the consultation. If the universe feels like being mean, it might take me 20-30 minutes to figure all this out, after a lengthy exercise on par with pulling teeth from an elephant, by which point I will be in a testy mood. (I mean hello, I’m trying to help you – for heaven’s sakes, look like you want to at least HELP YOURSELF).

Now, bear in mind that I never ever give the client an option that is specific from the standpoint of a job title (although sometimes this is possible if there is a lot of clarity in the chart and the person has a very clear idea of what kind of industry they want to work in and I’m very familiar with that industry) or a type of business. But most of the time, I strive to give them a clear picture or descriptive of the options available to them and I strive to make sure that it is something that ties in with what they are interested in (or passionate about – very important).

And I try to make sure the option is something that works with their chart, and not against it.

And I make it a point to make sure the option, most importantly, is DO-ABLE. Achievable by you, given the circumstances of your chart, your inherent basic personality AND the reality of the world.

So the next time you go to a BaZi consultant and come out thinking you didn’t get options, options and more options, ask yourself if it really is the case of not getting any options, or simply not hearing the options you wanted to hear.

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Big Idea vs Small Idea

August 31, 2009 · 5 Comments

Call it the curse of Chinese Metaphysics. Just as students of Feng Shui are obsessed with ‘The Formula’, so students of BaZi are obsessed with ‘The Technique’. In my recent M2 class, any mention of an advanced approach or technique often makes the students wonder if the reason why they aren’t getting the answers they want to get from the BaZi chart is because they don’t know something.

Are there some special combinations that we don’t know about? Is there some special structure that we haven’t learnt about that therefore impedes our ability to access the hidden secrets of a particular chart.

Personally, I think students think far too much about the building blocks (the Combos, the Harms, the Destructions etc) than they do about the house. There’s to much fixation on technique, and not enough focus on concept.

So what is ‘concept’ in BaZi? It’s in the word of Robin Sharma, a ‘big idea’.

Concept involves thinking about what the purpose of BaZi is supposed to be. It involves thinking about BaZi in the broader context of life, happiness, greatness, achievement, progress and advancement. Concept involves if you like, deriving some form of principle or philosophy or approach about how to do a certain something.It’s a hypothesis. A theory about how to do a certain something, or handle a certain situation.

For example, an important CONCEPT in BaZi is that of connection. BaZi affords us an opportunity to understand how we connect with the people around us. Why person x at this point in time? Why person y 10 years ago, but not now? Why this particular Day Master only. Why in a given year, a certain type of Day Master seems to constantly emerge to offer you assistance, or guidance?

Another important concept that I’ve arrived at in the course of my consulting practice is (I hesitate to say that I originated the thought since original thought isn’t that easy) relates to careers. BaZi cannot tell us if a person should be a doctor, or a scientist or a social worker. People often expect me to be able to pull a profession out of the hat for them. BaZi cannot do that. But BaZi can tell us if a person has the skills and abilities to be a doctor, scientist or social worker and how well they will do in those roles, based on their skills.

The BIG IDEA that BaZi is putting across here is the concept of trying to understand yourself from a SKILLS perspective first, and not a JOB perspective. Figure out what you are good at doing (based on your chart) and then find a job that fits those strengths, which could be any number of possibilities. Or better yet. Find out what you are good at doing, and then invent a profession or job that fits those strengths and abilities.

For many Asians, this is a completely unorthodox, even absurd, way of finding a career. In the old days, you took up a profession or vocation, and then you got good at doing it. The old 10,000 hours that Malcolm Gladwell talks about in ‘Outliers’. And then you just practiced and practiced. And you would eventually acquire a vocation or a skill.

Guess what? Anybody can get good at doing something by just doing it all the time. As with anything in this life, with enough practice, you will get somewhere. Perseverance is 99% of genius after all. But that being said, you’re never gonna be as good at it as someone who not only works hard, but has their BaZi pushing them all the way. And guess what? You might certainly not be happy doing your job, which you’re only good at because you’ve been doing it for so long it’s impossible to be bad at doing it.

What is the path to career excellence? Dedication AND Passion. You’ve got to like doing it, and be good at doing it. And whilst you can get good at a job or skill without liking it, you’d be so much better if you also liked your job at the same time.

The big idea that BaZi promotes is not to look for a JOB. It is to look for a CALLING. A calling that suits your skills, plays to your strengths and doesn’t press your weaknesses too much. Better yet, invent a calling that you can OWN. If Mark McCormack didn’t do that, we wouldn’t have a company called IMG today. And sports stars wouldn’t be flogging watches, and perfume, and cologne and shaving blades, whilst earning a fortune doing so.

Here’s another concept. One of the advanced ideas that you learn (in m3 of the MA syllabus at least) is that all the elements in a BaZi chart have an inter-dependent relationship. So for example, if you have Ding Fire in your chart, then you must have Jia Wood to help that Ding Fire candle keep burning. But you also need a Xin Metal or Geng Metal to chop the Jia Wood to provide the kindling for the Ding Fire. And it goes on.

The inter-dependent nature of all the elements in a chart is played out against the backdrop of the fact that every chart has a magic key element. This is the Useful God or the Regulating Useful God element. It is the element that unlocks the power and potential of the chart. But, the Useful God or Regulating Useful God element has to be a good quality element and have all the elements that the particular Useful God or Regulating Useful God element is inter-dependent upon.

So what’s the big idea?

Christmas lights.

Turn on one switch, and you light up the whole row.

What BaZi tells us is that there is one key integral action or personal quality that each person NEEDS to possess (or acquire) or regularly make use of, that represents the element that their Useful God or Regulating Useful God is MOST inter-dependent upon. The more you use that quality or do that action, the more you hone, encourage, feed, nurture, grow, forge, shine, water, or focus your Useful God or Regulating Useful God element.

Flip the switch. And watch your ducks line up in a row.

This sounds confusing so here’s an example.

Let’s assume that the Day Master is Jia Wood. Jia Wood as a rule, must be made useful. It must be chopped. And so for all Jia Woods, the presence of Geng Metal in the chart is integral. Now, Geng Metal, as an element, requires Ding Fire (or in the absence of that, Bing) to bring out its true qualities and the Sha that it carries inherent within it. So, the Jia Wood now needs both Ding and Geng. Assuming the chart has both these elements, how then does the person ‘flip the switch’?

Ding is the key here, which represents a Jia Wood person’s Hurting Officer star.

The more Hurting Officer in temperament the person is, meaning, the more opinionated, forceful, outgoing, unorthodox, bold and daring the person is, the more they are doing what is needed to unlock the power of the Geng Metal in their chart, namely, forging the Metal. As the Geng Metal in their chart represents their Seven Killings star, this means that the bolder, more daing, more forceful, more outgoing, more bold thinking the person is, the greater their  influence and power, their ability to be decisive is enhanced, their capacity to make big decisions grows, and their ambition, drive and desire to win big, as well as belief in their own invincibility, will become more pronounced. And they will in turn be able to make the decisions, take the jobs, or make the choices that are needed for them to become a ‘useful’ Jia Wood.

So,don’t fixate on the small ideas, the secret techniques, and the combos you don’t know about.

Think Big.

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The Dirty on Peach Blossom

August 7, 2009 · 11 Comments

A reader sent me a great list of questions about Peach Blossom to answer.  I thought that instead of writing the answer to just her, I’d print them here, and answer them.

Ok, when is it extremely auspicious when a peach blossom is in your chart?

The word ‘auspicious’ here is misleading really. It’s a very old-fashioned concept that I suppose means ‘good’ in general or ‘positive’. The modern outlook on BaZi is that all the stars are ‘usable’, meaning, each has a purpose and a basis for usage. For example, in the old days, the 7 Killings star 七 刹 was considered ‘inauspicious’ because it was considered bad to have petty people in your life. Now, it’s all part and parcel of daily life really. But back to the Peach Blossom.

A little Peach Blossom is regarded as a good thing. By a little, I mean ONE.  One Peach Blossom star means that you are (irregardless of your true physical appearance) an attractive person in the sense that people are drawn to you, enjoy your company, or find you pleasant and personable.

I suppose you could say being personable, nice, and someone people are drawn to and enjoy spending time and company with is an ‘auspicious’ thing. Obviously in the relationships game, having an attraction star is a favourable thing. Getting a date is a lot easier if someone is willing and keen to talk to you in the first place and finds you pleasant company right?

One of the additional positives of the Peach Blossom star which is not usually discussed is it’s advantage in the workplace. Being liked at your job is helpful – it means that people are more likely to extend you a favour or do something for you or close an eye to a misdemeanour, or work better with you because well, you’re nice to look at, attractive, or just someone they enjoy being around. Hence, people in front-facing jobs (sales, marketing, customer service) usually benefit from having a Peach Blossom star in the chart.

But to answer the question above, it is never EXTREMELY AUSPICIOUS. I don’t like to use that term and I think it is misleading. It is simple positive and favourable to have. But if you don’t have it, it’s not in my view a big deal.

Having it in the Marriage pillar, or day pillar, month? or year? hour?

Each position exerts a different effect obviously. (and I think the asker doesn’t't mean Marriage Pillar – she means Spouse Palace). The answer to this question very largely depends on what you want to use the Peach Blossom star for. In other words, what’s it being deployed to do? Peach Blossom Stars at the Hour Pillar are regarded as the ones having the quickest but most transient effect so that’s great if you need to do a lot of charming on the job or you’re into serial dating or serial relationships. When the star is located at the Year Pillar have a more lasting effect, but in my view is usually less of a problematic type of attraction (meaning, no stalker girlfriend/boyfriend types and people who you really don’t like coming after you)

A Peach Blossom star in the Spouse Palace would not in my view be considered a positive or favourable feature in the chart UNLESS that star is the true Spouse Star for the Day Master. But then again, we want to only see the true Spouse Star in the Spouse Palace so arguably, it’s not just the Peach Blossom Star that is discriminated against in the Spouse Palace.

Also, does it only count as a peach blossom star if you take a look at only the Day branch animal sign/ Year pillar?

This question is ambiguous but I take it to mean that a Peach Blossom star is only significant if it is one’s PERSONAL Peach Blossom star, as opposed to just being one of the Peach Blossom Stars, namely, Rat 子 Rabbit 卯  Horse 午  and Rooster 酉.

Obviously the Personal Peach Blossom star is superior in terms of your ability to utilise it compared to having a Peach Blossom star in your chart that is not your personal Peach Blossom Star. (Incidentally, you can have more than one since it is based on your Year and Day Branch). However, a Peach Blossom star, seeing as it is quite useful, is better than none. But obviously, a Personal Peach Blossom star is better than a non-personal one.

What if you just have a zodiac animal in your chart that is one of the four peach blossom star, but not necessarily a peach blossom to the day animal/year animal? does it still have peach blossom effect?

Answered above but to make it clear: it’s still a Peach Blossom Star. So it still has the attraction + charm effect. What’s more important is how it interacts with all the other Branches in your chart AND more significantly, which of the Ten Gods that particular Peach Blossom star relates to which will have some impact on its ultimate effect.

Also, would each peach blossom display differently? Or is peach blossom JUST peach blossom luck? Say,if one has a peach blossom star as a rabbit and the other one has the rat… How is it portrayed differently? or is it just the same peach blossom luck is all?

You have to co-relate the Peach Blossom star to the 10 Gods, and then relate the particular Ten God that the Peach Blossom Star co-relates to back to the Day Master. For example, a Geng Metal Day Master with a Rooster Peach Blossom Star has the Rob Wealth Star as their Peach Blossom. So, their Peach Blossom Star will manifest in the manner of the Rob Wealth star (ie: gift of the gab, ability to charm through conversation or speaking or in social situations, a person who converts friends in to relationships and back again easily).

The general approach to Peach Blossom is that its an attraction star. But when you put in the 10 Gods, you get a more specific interpretation and understanding of HOW that star works for that person best and in what situations and environments.

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